Hello, everyone! I’m sorry I’m late with this blog post, but I wrote it a week ago and wasn’t pleased with it. So, I thought I’d work it over and present it to you as a legal case where I let you decide the verdict. But first of all, since the topic is peace, let’s define peace first.
Peace: (a) a state in which there is no war or fighting; (b) a state of tranquility or quiet; (c) freedom from alarming thoughts or emotions. Now, keep those definitions in mind because you’ll need them for the Survey at the end.
We’ve all been in the valley of decision many times. Every day, we’re faced with a myriad of decisions all day long. Sometimes, we make good decisions and no one dies as a result. Other times, our decisions clearly reflect the fact that we’ve allowed Captain Crazy to be our Life Coach.
With so many decisions to make in life and so many factors that demand consideration, how does one make the best decision for the long term? Is there an app for that? No. The answer is simple. You have to move to a different state.
You have to move to a state called Peace.
CASE STUDY: Let’s examine a case study of a beautiful, intelligent young woman who thinks a great deal of herself and her physical attributes. She knows that it’s within the realm of possibility for her to marry a man who is good at business, has status and wealth. The man in question desires a wife who is beautiful and who can present well with influential people of achievement and status. She passes his test. He takes her to many events over a two-year time period and makes certain she has everything she needs to accompany him. She doesn’t see him a great deal aside from their public appearances, which are many. She assumes his business dealings leave him little time for leisure, but it’s the whirlwind of being with him that thrills her. When she sees media coverage of him at events she wasn’t invited to, he makes it up to her with excuses about preserving her time and with expensive gifts. He makes a point of having her meet his family, and they are polite to her.
Finally, he presents her with an unforgettable 8-karat, platinum Edwardian diamond in an old European cut accented by trios of marquise cut diamond leaves. And guess what? The wedding planning begins.
She makes it through his first marital affair with the help of a therapist but finds herself enraged and confused on discovering his other “activities,” and she asks herself where she went wrong. Is it the nature of the beast? Does she silo her thoughts by believing that all men cheat because if she believes that, then she doesn’t have a right to expect more? Will that bring her any comfort? Is it truly all his fault, or is she at fault, too? She held up her end of the bargain and gave him everything he required of her in the relationship. How could she have any blame?
COURT: Now, let’s go to Relationship Court. Except we’re not taking him to court—THIS IS HER TRIAL! Don’t be upset. We’ll ask some questions and then we’ll cross examine.
Did he treat her well in the dating relationship? Did he take her to all the finest places? Did he introduce her to his colleagues and business associates and make her feel needed? Did he introduce her to family members? Did he buy her exceptionally nice things and make certain she had everything she wanted? Was he respectful toward her at all times?
CROSS EXAMINATION: Did he tell her all about his past? Did they share more than surface desires? Did he tell her the deepest thoughts of his heart? Were there times when she did not hear from him for days? Did media sources show him at events she didn’t have knowledge of—events where there were many beautiful females in the spotlight? Did he always manage to explain it away as something of little importance? Did he make things up to her with impressive gifts? She received everything she thought she wanted, but did she reach for a higher life or a lower life? Was the pain she endured worth it? Or did it confuse her and vex her future decision making? I’ll let you answer that.
So, when the an unforgettable 8-karat, platinum Edwardian diamond in an old European cut accented by trios of marquise cut diamond leaves was presented, what state was she in when the decision was made? She was clearly excited because her goal was within reach.
But was she in a state called Peace?
Before I drop the survey on you, let me leave you with these thoughts. Peace has to be practiced and cultivated like a skill. When a decision is in front of you, all possible outcomes have to be weighed and considered. All nagging questions must be answered. Your subconscious has to be clear without you waking up in the night sweating. “I’ll just have to deal with it,” can never be allowed to tip the scales in decision making. That’s something Captain Crazy would say.
Maybe I’ll have to do a Part 2 on Peace so that you can see what a necessary skill it is? Please answer the survey for your own cross examination. Thank you!